Everyone I’ve met wants to get whatever it is that they’ve desired all their lives. Many would work hard, lie, cheat and even kill to get what they want…but the sad reality is that many seem to try all their lives and never get to achieving their dreams while some persons effortlessly achieve dream after dream. What could be the secret of getting whatever one wants in life?
It is hardwork? Could it be luck? Does destiny have a hand in it?
I gladly tell you my distinguished reader that it is none of the above. Or at worst, it is a pleasant combination…
If hardwork, luck or destiny are not the ingredients for getting what one wants, what else could be responsible, dear Terungwa. Simple. 5 Tricks that never fail – and here they are!
HARD (AND SMART) WORK
Very often, we are told by our parents (or older siblings) to work hard if we’re intent on getting what we want in life. What these good ‘advisors’ of ours fail to tell us is that the farmers of Africa and the factory workers of China are the most hardworking group of persons in the whole wide world.
…and yet, they are the most poorest.
Why is that? You ask. The reason is quite simple. These group of persons believe in the power of their brow and are simply not interested in learning what the meaning of smart is.
What exactly is smart work? What constitutes it?
- Smart work is thinking before you begin any task and not approaching your duty mechanically.
- It is doing today’s task with a conscious effort to make it better than the previous day.
- It also means consciously looking for ways to improve production in your chosen endeavor. It must be understood that as you increase production, you should decrease the amount of physical strength or exertion but possibly quadruple production.
Are you a hard (and smart) worker or you’re the African farmer/Chinese factory worker?
BURNING UP ALL OF ONE’S BRIDGES
Life is quite funny. You may deserve the best – but if you don’t push forward and really hold on with all your might, life may simply give you nothing, not even a little when actually, you deserve the best!
But how is that, Terungwa? Simple.
Your mind is quite a little beast that will prefer to lie and idle away if you give it that luxury. However, when you fail to cooperate and leave it with no PLAN ‘B’ by burning all your bridges, it in conjunction with your entire self automatically runs on overdrive. That singular sensation that registers in your mind: it’s either I succeed or perish, puts you in no mood for failure. And it’s when you’re in no mood for failure that you take a step towards success.
However, burning up one’s bridges may not be feasible for those with a faint heart or persons who have the lowest of self esteems. For all such persons, the classical advice would be: keep all your options open but act as if you’re left with only one option!
But if I be heeded, I still recommend one and one thing only: BURN THOSE BRIDGES!
A BURNING DESIRE NOT TO ACCEPT FAILURE AS AN OPTION
Desire is the starting point of all achievement. When one desires something to the extent that he/she thinks about that which is desired throughout the day and dreams of the same subject matter at night, a strange thing happens…
Failure ceases to exist!
For such a person, trekking across three continents for that which is desired is a possibility. Such a mindset and brain registers nothing called failure! It is thus when that mode is activated that achieving whatever you want becomes a reality.
BEING CONSCIOUSLY BETTER THAN YESTERDAY
The great tragedy that most of humanity faces is competing with friends and associates even when it means less than average results. We measure our progress by constant comparison with friends and close associates and approve or disapprove of ourselves accordingly.
No matter how low our associate’s standards may be…That is the great tragedy!
To get whatever you want, you must strive not to outdo the fellow next door, but instead, be intent on outdoing yourself! Outdoing yourself means being better than you were yesterday, being wiser than you were yesterday, producing more than you produced yesterday etc.
What is the import of such a style? You develop yourself to an extent where all your dreams become a work over for you! Remeber, you’d be 10X better at the end of the year if you adopt this strategy.
Who says there are impossible tasks again?
ACCEPTING FAILURES AS GUILDPOSTS NOT STOP SIGNS
Many of us have a corrupted perception of failure: we believe it is bad and by all means, must be avoided. This faulted reasoning has its firm root in the educational systems of the world where ‘failure’ is punished and ‘achievement’ rewarded.
However, what most of these ‘top scholars’ who brutally enforce such an archaic system of reasoning fail to understand is that the whole world operates on the level of using failure as a leverage to achieve success.
If you don’t attempt and fail, how will you know what works?
Let’s take the issue of a newborn infant. How many of you, my dear readers would stand calm on your toes should a new born infant start working on its own, eating solid food and talking? My guess is none! Maybe, the mother?
However, from being blind and helpless, this baby learns to open its eyes and adjust to light intensity, smile and eventually sit. The first attempt at sitting is usually a tragedy (there is yet no exception!). The baby ‘crashes’ many times before it masters the act of sitting. So is it with crawling and other major developmental stages. There is always multiple failures before success is recorded. The baby however does not give up and say: ‘Aha! This is too tough!’ Instead, it learns and progresses and in the end, that baby comes out triumphant – a full grown adult: YOU!
Why then is that we quickly forget we were conquerors even as babies and never were deterred by failure? That answer may just be what is stopping you from getting what you want!